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18 things to make time for again

Thought Catalog for the win again. Someone recently sent me this article sharing 18 things everyone should make time for again and I wanted to share with you. Enjoy! xo


1. Writing things by hand. Letters to friends, lists for the store, goals for the week, notes for lovers, thank you cards and memos to coworkers. Digital communication is easy and convenient but ask anybody: there’s a huge difference between texting someone to say that you love them and hope they have a great day and writing it on a note and leaving it next to their bed.

2. Savoring time to do nothing. Taking a cue from pre-industrialized society and cultures that enjoy siestas and long, drawn-out, sit-down teas that serve no other purpose than to spend time enjoying the time you have.

3. Thinking before responding. We’ve become too conditioned to require things immediately. Someone asks a question, and we have to respond that second. Such was not the case before instant messaging and comment threads. A sign of true intelligence and confidence, I think, is someone who takes time to consider the question at hand in a little more depth, and then offers a response.

4. Cooking a nice meal just for the sake of doing so. It really trains you to defy your need for instant gratification and of course puts you in touch with something that’s very human and can be lovely if done right.

5. Getting really dressed up for no other reason than just wanting to.

6. Books. Actual hard copy books that you can scribble notes in and mark off sections of and smell ink through and hear the sound of turning pages and bending spines while you read.

7. Making phone calls to relatives for no other reason than to just say hi, and to ask how they’re doing.

8. Disconnecting from technology frequently enough that we won’t be anxious and feeling like we’re missing something when we try to do so for an extended period of time.

9. Celebrating things with long, multiple course dinners that we hold for people as opposed to just drinking ourselves into an oblivion and being belligerent (that has it’s time and place, of course, but having thoughtful, celebratory dinners is a dying art).

10. Cleaning because it’s satisfying and doing things like painting walls or getting fresh flowers just because it’s therapeutic.

11. Spending time with kids, and doing kid things with them. They just know what’s up.

12. Answering things in a timely fashion, not putting off invitations and requests just because we can.

13. Making sure relationships are actually based on time spent with one another. People seem to be sustaining them through only digital means with increasing frequency and I can understand how that’s important if it’s temporarily long distance but in general, physically being with people is the only thing that will give you that sense of human connectedness.

14. Just sitting and listening to music. We’ve made music background noise in our everyday lives, but now and again we should just sit and enjoy it like people used to.

15. Traveling by train, or if that’s not possible, at least exploring places that you pass everyday. Especially if you live in a big city, there are always little hidden gems around that you won’t believe you lived without seeing while they were a block away from you all along.

16. Putting personal health and well-being first, as it often falls to the wayside in importance. This means, aside from the obvious, taking those personal days and using them to just relax. We’ve made such a quirky commodity out of enjoying napping and relaxing, as though doing so makes us boring and old. It doesn’t, it’s healthy.

17. Planning something, especially with someone else, as simple as dinner or as grandiose as a long vacation next year. You always need something to look forward to.

18. Stopping to talk to people throughout the day. Connecting with them genuinely, as such interaction is really important but is becoming increasingly less common. Turning our phones off when out to dinner (who even turns them off anymore?) and learning to not spend all of our time documenting whatever we’re doing for social media. It often takes away from the experience itself.

nothing ever happens

Lovely Links

This quote is what I’m reminding myself this week and weekend. It reminds me to not take every single thing so literally and seriously and instead, take life for what it is in each given moment. I often am mapping out ideas of what I want in the future, and while this isn’t necessarily a bad thing – it can take away from the spontaneity in life. I want to be open to whatever comes next.

That being said, I’m taking today off work and having a mini ‘me day’ before a fun trip down to Big Sur. I’m taking a major break from the constant planning and coordinating and scheduling to just - be. 

In the meantime, here’s some of my very favorite gems from the Web this week. There’s a lot of good ones – perfect for some good weekend reading! xo

Zach’s Mount Davidson story – beeeeeautiful photos from one of my favorite sunrise hikes

11 differences between dating a boy vs. a man

The CUTEST little boy diagnosed with cancer who is having his Batman dream come to life in San Francisco

How to wear a scarf

Having major wanderlust…need to book a trip asap!

Coworkers who are bloggers is always a good thing! Love Sarah’s honesty and openness about moving across the country

A Pinterest find! How cute is Kaylee’s blog and especially this post AND this tulle skirt!

Laughed about this for at least ten minutes

Think less, do more…an awesome reminder and article from the always amazing Darling magazine

 

 

 

robyn

i love my body as it is

I’m all about girl power. I recently learned about Robyn Lawley on the lovely Natalie’s blog and couldn’t be more obsessed with her interview on Ellen. The Australian model talked openly with Ellen about her body, the fashion industry, the pressure in our culture today on body image and the false messages that you to be skinny to be considered beautiful. After this interview, I’m convinced she is the definition of a queen.

After being called words like ‘pig’ and ‘hefty’, she took the higher, queen-like route and admitted she loves her body the way it is. She shares that once she started telling herself that she loved her body, the more she actually did love it and accept it they way it is. Her entire perception changed just from that simple shift in mindset.

What an awesome reminder to love your body as it is.. Definitely check out the full interview! xo

measuring stick

measuring sticks

First things first, my blog was hacked yesterday! For those of you who received an email about a new blog post on Monday and read a blog post about gambling, THAT WASN’T ME. I was so frustrated and annoyed about what happened but can assure you it won’t happen again. Always a good reminder to change passwords often!

Second up: This blog post from the always inspiring and right-on Ann Voskamp was such a great reminder. It’s something I’ve definitely struggled with as a girl – comparing myself to other people’s jobs, bodies, families, closets, relationships.  This post was an excellent and often much needed reminder that instead of comparing ourselves to other people, we will live better, happier, healthier and joy-filled lives when we empower them instead. Here’s my favorite excerpts from her full post below.


“There will always be people who see everything in the world as a measuring stick of their worthiness. If your life looks like a mess – to them — they whip out a measuring stick and feel confident of their own worthiness. If your life looks like a monument – to them — they whip out a measuring stick – and start cutting you down for their own empowerment.

Measuring sticks always become weapons.

I want to tell her, and every woman browsing through a fashion magazine, standing on a scale, scrolling through Pinterest, clicking through blogs, looking in a mirror: Every yardstick always becomes a bully stick. Pick up a yardstick to measure your life against anyone else’s and you’ve just picked up a stick and beaten up your own soul.

Measuring sticks always become weapons. Of Self-Harm.

Comparison is a thug that robs your joy. But it’s even more than that — Comparison makes you a thug who beats down somebody – or your soul.

Scales always lie. They don’t make a scale that ever told the truth about value, about worth, about significance.

And the thing about measuring sticks, girl? Measuring sticks try to rank some people as big and some people as small — but we aren’t sizes. We are souls. There are no better people or worse people — there are only God-made souls. There is no point trying to size people up, no point trying to compare – because souls defy measuring.

You can’t measure souls.

I whisper it to her like a heart’s battle cry, like it could rally a generation of daughters and women and sisters:

Girls rival each other. Women revive each other.
Girls empale each other. Women empower each other.
Girls compare each other. Women champion each other.”