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30 Before 30

This Glamour article 30 Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know by the Time She’s 30 was popular in the late ’90s and then circled back around the Internet in 2005. I wanted to share the list with you because it had me thinking about my life now, here in my 20s. There’s some wonderful insight in this list – and I have a lot to learn and do in the next couple of years! The original author of the list teamed up with the editors at Glamour + other lovely ladies to create a book and I most certainly need to buy!

Enjoy!

By 30, you should have:

  1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
  2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
  3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
  4. A purse, a suitcase and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
  5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.
  6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
  7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age—and some money set aside to help fund it.
  8. An e-mail address, a voice mailbox and a bank account—all of which nobody has access to but you.
  9. A resume that is not even the slightest bit padded.
  10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
  11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill and a black lace bra.
  12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
  13. The belief that you deserve it.
  14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
  15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship and all those other facets of life that do get better.

By 30, you should know:

  1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.
  2. How you feel about having kids.
  3. How to quit a job, break up with a man and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
  4. When to try harder and when to walk away.
  5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.
  6. The names of: the secretary of state, your great-grandmother and the best tailor in town.
  7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.
  8. How to take control of your own birthday.
  9. That you can’t change the length of your calves, the width of your hips or the nature of your parents.
  10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.
  11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.
  12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs or not flossing for very long.
  13. Who you can trust, who you can’t and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
  14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.
  15. Why they say life begins at 30.

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stop comparing

I love this.

“In a spiritual sense, comparing your path to another’s is comparing apples and oranges. Why? Your life is explicitly designed for your own growth. Every person you meet, every situation you encounter, challenges you to become a stronger, more loving, and confident person. Try to appreciate the grace of both the hurdles and the joys you’ve been given. This is life’s legacy to you. Self-esteem comes from embracing this, working with what each day brings. How you spend your time here is up to you.”

via Huffington Post

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Lovely links

Can I get a hip-hip-hooray! for Friday!? I’m beyond stoked to soak up the weekend with good company and an even better Easter celebration. Here’s a few things I found online that made me extra happy this week. Enjoy your weekend!

polish my crown

I love all things polka dots, this DIY rug is no exception.

“How you choose to spend the irreplaceable hours of your life literally transforms you.

I want to date every single person in The Head and the Heart. This song is beautiful!

Yay or nay to ombre tights? A definite YAY for me!

THIS OFFICE.

I am from obstacles that turned into opportunities

Can’t. Stop. Laughing.

Beaaaaautiful jewelry!

These $14.95 floral pants from H&M are a-mazing. Thank god my roomie owns them! ;)

YUM! Breakfast pizza topped with avocado and an egg

What song inspires you? Tell us and enter to win an 8×10″ print from Lisa!

#thingsthatmakemehappy

For all you list-makers out there!

 

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It chooses you

I just started reading It Chooses You by Miranda July and found a blog post from the lovely Maggie highlighting the best parts/quotes from the book. I had to share her favorite parts, and will definitely keep you updated on my favorites when I’m finished! What’s your favorite book?


(Image from For Me, For You)

I kept the house because the rent is cheap and I write there; it’s become my office. And the great northern beans, the cinnamon, and the rice keep the light on for me, should anything go horribly wrong, or should I come to my senses and reclaim my position as the most alone person who ever existed.

It was an act of devotion. A little like writing or loving someone — it doesn’t always feel worthwhile, but not giving up somehow creates unexpected meaning over time.

…I wasn’t in a fairytale or a fable. I shut my eyes and absorbed the silent whoomp that always accompanies this revelation. It’s the sound of the real world, gigantic and impossible, replacing the smaller version of reality that I wear like a bonnet, clutched tightly under my chin.

I had shortened my life in another way too, by marrying a man who was eight years older than me, meaning he would die exactly eight years before me, rendering the last eight years of my life useless. I would just spend it crying.

Ron was exactly the kind of man you spend your whole life being careful not to end up in the apartment of. And since I was raised to go out of my way to make such men feel understood, I took extra-special care with his inteview. But as he talked on and on (the original transcript was more than fifty pages), I realized that I don’t actually want to understand this kind of man — I just want them to feel understood, because I fear what will happen if I am thought of as yet another person who doesn’t believe them. I want to be the one they spare on the day of reckoning.

In my lexicon of signs and symbols, obsessively organized pictures of Prisons, Babies, and Nice Girls are an indication that something of great consequence is afoot.

All I ever really want to know is how other people are making it through life — where do they put their body, hour by hour, and how do they cope inside of it.

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